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Entries in assertiveness (4)

Friday
Dec142012

How to Overcome Neediness

DateFriday, December 14, 2012 at 10:51AM

 

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When we’re gripped by the terror of neediness, we feel completely out of control. We wonder if any amount of reassurance will ever be enough. How can we understand these moments? More importantly, how can the needy find relief?

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Friday
Dec142012

How Technology Makes Us Afraid of Intimacy 

DateFriday, December 14, 2012 at 10:37AM

Everyone’s at risk for the occasional retreat from the people in their lives—and technology offers plenty of places to hide. But what are the dangers of camping out in cyberspace?

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Thursday
Sep232010

An Assertiveness Cheat-Sheet

DateThursday, September 23, 2010 at 06:36PM

Trying to stand up for yourself? Remember your A, B, C’s. I’ve already shared my perspective on the art of saying no. It’s probably one of the most important social skills you can master. But proper assertiveness statements--part of a broader class of assertive communication techniques--tend to come in handy across situations, and along with the gentle limit-setting of a gracefully delivered no, they can help you draw clearer boundaries around your relationships. In the end, everyone benefits from this. You’ll have a much easier time maintaining your integrity, self-esteem and sometimes safety, and your friends, partners, and dates have an easier time getting to know who you really are.

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Thursday
Jun242010

Talk-Free Relationship Fix #10,302: Say No Without Starting Trouble

DateThursday, June 24, 2010 at 12:08PM

(Even more impressive than starting in the 700’s is breaking the 10,000 mark) OK, so this one does require a few words, but not many. For some reason, the last few posts generated curiosity about how to preserve harmony when you just want to say no. It’s true—being able to say no is an important relationship skill, in and of itself, so here are some quick thoughts.

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