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The Science of First Dates

Show interest if you're the least bit attracted.

Despite the pervasive myth we like to chase after people, the actual dating research paints a different picture: no one wants to date people who play hard to get. There's a world of difference between someone who's less available because . . . Read Keep it Interesting

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Entries in dating (8)

Friday
Dec142012

How to Overcome Neediness

DateFriday, December 14, 2012 at 10:51AM

 

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When we’re gripped by the terror of neediness, we feel completely out of control. We wonder if any amount of reassurance will ever be enough. How can we understand these moments? More importantly, how can the needy find relief?

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Friday
Jan072011

Love is Blind...and Numb? Why You Can't Always Feel When Love Hurts

DateFriday, January 7, 2011 at 08:41AM

The fMRI has come in handy for researchers wanting to know more about what happens when we're falling in love. In the past, psychologists had to rely entirely on self-report when trying to understand what people feel from one moment to the next. Now we can take a picture. The advent of fMRI technology makes it easier than ever to see what happens to the brain in love.

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Friday
Nov052010

Survival of the Funniest: Humor and Attraction

DateFriday, November 5, 2010 at 11:54AM

A journalist recently interviewed me about the link between humor and attraction. You probably guessed there’s some connection, but did you know just how strong it is? There’s actually a wealth of research devoted to this subject, and the article above mentions just a few of the highlights Bottom line: in dating—and in life—a sense of humor can only help.

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Thursday
Oct142010

One of the Top Questions I’m Asked: Answered Below

DateThursday, October 14, 2010 at 07:53PM

I’ve lost count of the number of clients and journalists who’ve asked me this one: Should people date while depressed? At a glance, the number last year looks like ten times from the press, alone, (eleven if you count, “Should people date while unemployed?”—in some ways, a variation on the same question, considering how often unemployment seems to coincide with depression).

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Thursday
Aug192010

A Little Dating Wisdom: How to Avoid Crack Dealers

DateThursday, August 19, 2010 at 03:22PM

A staggering number of dating disasters can be traced to unconscious (automatic) choices. Self-awareness is crucial when it comes to changing bad attraction patterns, and very few forces push us to the edge of romantic disaster quite as quickly as reflexive, mindless decision making—except, of course, stubborn, conscious decision making.

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