Thursday
Jul012010
Vacation
Thursday, July 1, 2010 at 01:51PM No posts or e-mails for the next two weeks. Vacation! Enjoy the 4th.
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Thursday, July 1, 2010 at 01:51PM Thursday
Jun242010
Talk-Free Relationship Fix #10,302: Say No Without Starting Trouble
Thursday, June 24, 2010 at 12:08PM
(Even more impressive than starting in the 700’s is breaking the 10,000 mark)
OK, so this one does require a few words, but not many. For some reason, the last few posts generated curiosity about how to preserve harmony when you just want to say no. It’s true—being able to say no is an important relationship skill, in and of itself, so here are some quick thoughts.
Thursday
Jun172010
Talk-Free Relationship Fix #735: Catch Your Partner Being Good
Thursday, June 17, 2010 at 11:40AM
You’re probably already acquainted with “I” statements and assertiveness skills, but did you know there’s a research-proven way to improve your relationship, even at the earliest, dating stage, without any conversation at all? In fact, sometimes it works without anyone having to utter a single word (hint: it’s not hypnosis or subliminal suggestion).
Thursday
Jun102010
Save Your Relationship: Stop Talking
Thursday, June 10, 2010 at 08:17AM
Good Long Talks: An Oxymoron
Over the past fifteen years, I’ve seen couples from all walks of life make the same mistake: they keep talking about their problems.
Contrary to popular belief, when you’re having trouble with your partner, endlessly picking over what’s wrong rarely provides anyone with a sense of relief. First, by the time you’ve arrived at the conclusion that the same problems keep plaguing your relationship, you’re probably not in the best state of mind to discuss them.
Wednesday
Jun022010
Romance on the Road: Keeping Love Alive in the Passenger Seat
Wednesday, June 2, 2010 at 01:51PM
As a couple’s therapist, I see all kinds of fights: squabbles over cleaning, cooking, finances, childcare, and yes, even the remote control. But one fight surfaces over and over, regardless of age, education, or sexual orientation. How you handle it can put you back on the right track (or the wrong one)
I’m talking about the dreaded car fight.
